‘Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality’ by Sarah McBride

Coming out to her parents one Christmas Day years and years ago, Sarah McBride had no idea that her identity as a trans woman and a successful future could go hand in hand. But years after that emotional Christmas, Sarah stood in front of a huge crowd at the 2016 Democratic National Convention as the first openly transgender person to speak at a major party’s convention. Her journey from self-acceptance to coming out to getting on that stage and working within LGBTQ advocacy didn’t happen overnight. Nor did she have to go through it alone.

Her memoir, titled Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality, gives a human story and a face to larger issues and conversations currently plaguing our country. Throughout the book, McBride finds that middle ground of talking about her own story of being a trans woman, working in LGBTQ advocacy, and falling in love with a trans man while also talking about how her story fits into the larger political climate. She cites statistics about the LGBTQ community in the midst of recounting a personal anecdote, finding that balance between talking about societal issues at large while also putting a face to the numbers.

The memoir is a fiercely personal journey that brings empathy back into the conversations on politics and legislation and McBride does such a good job of being humbly optimistic that doing so doesn’t feel cheesy or over the top. She writes in such a way that you can’t help but also feel hopeful about the fight for LGBTQ equality and justice, something that not everyone is able to do.

McBride is also vulnerable in the book, spending the last portion sharing her experience of falling in love and ultimately losing her husband to cancer. This book is one part a memoir about the fight for trans equality, one part reflection on privilege and identity, and one part a loving remembrance to Andy, her husband and fierce trans advocate in his own right.

If you are interested in trans equality or want to learn more about what one trans person’s experience, Tomorrow Will Be Different is a great resource. McBride writes about her own experiences, which also includes sharing her experiences helping to draft and eventually pass legislation in Delaware to help protect trans folks from discrimination. She’s funny and warm and utterly vulnerable in this book so be prepared to laugh, cry, and learn while reading.

I recommend getting this book at Village Books in Bellingham, WA, especially since McBride visited this location on her book tour in early 2018!

4.5/5 stars

Pairs well with:

  • tissues (for when you cry)
  • Kiki (a documentary about ball culture in New York City and the trans/gender nonconforming youth that participate) (available on Hulu)
  • Queery (a podcast by Cameron Esposito that interviews LGBTQ/Queer folks) (available wherever you listen to podcasts)